Raining On My Own Parade

Here's a pro tip: Don't tell a foster parent how they should feel about this process. A few weeks ago, I received the news that I would be upgrading from a Resource Family Home to a Prospective Adoption Home. In theory, this is a good thing. I no longer have to have three home inspections … Continue reading Raining On My Own Parade →

What’s In A Name?

It's been a helluva month. The Terrible Twos™ are raging and were exacerbated by incoming molars and a cold that just won't quit. Tonight's tantrum du jour was regarding my inability to "open" my belly button 😑 I'm feeling very this... https://open.spotify.com/track/75JFxkI2RXiU7L9VXzMkle?si=292d7de674b145dc Nobody said it was easy, no one ever said it would be this … Continue reading What’s In A Name? →

The Moms Are Not Alright

Over the past six months since the TPR hearing, I have been so grateful to be able to focus my attention on the normal Mom fears, and not the constant cloud of potential tragedy. Is he sleeping enough? Eating enough? Is it cool that he prefers to sleep on the floor as opposed to his … Continue reading The Moms Are Not Alright →

Congratulations?

Last Friday, on LO's second birthday, parental rights were terminated for both birth parents. It's a strange sensation when something you've been manifesting for so long finally comes to fruition. I still don't think I've fully processed this new reality, even a week later. But here are the details to try and ground me... Father … Continue reading Congratulations? →

New Year, Who Dis?

Baby turns 2 next week, the same day as his Father's court hearing to reinstate reunification services from the county in the morning and, if that isn't granted, the .26 hearing to terminate parental rights in the afternoon. Grounds for reinstating reunification services include: (1) a change in circumstance for the parent and (2) best … Continue reading New Year, Who Dis? →

Traumarama Mama

I've been struggling lately with the treatment of acute vs. chronic trauma in our society. As many "social media psychologists" have wisely noted of late, we are all experiencing chronic trauma as we battle the ever-present undercurrent of a pandemic sprinkled with a global and local war on women, the impending doom of climate change, … Continue reading Traumarama Mama →

Bittersweet Symphony

^Now I can't stop thinking about Cruel Intentions. Okay get serious, you guys, this post is HEAVY. Today, after nearly 18 months, the court terminated reunification services for both birth parents. While this is positive news, I don't feel like celebrating much because: There are still so many hurdles before adoption. Birth Father (BF) can … Continue reading Bittersweet Symphony →

The Rambler

Lots to share. Prepare for a ramble... Latest Case Information Keeping this pretty dry. There has been SO much drama over the past few months and I don't feel comfortable sharing most of it here as our case remains open. Suffice to say I had to get the police involved at one point, but everyone … Continue reading The Rambler →

Brave Love

I have no major updates, dear readers, but I thought I'd share the letter I recently wrote to the little one on the one-year anniversary of his placement in my home... While we still don't know what the future holds for our little family, you have embedded yourself into my heart, and there you will … Continue reading Brave Love →

Dia de los Reyes

Last week we celebrated my foster son's first birthday. He was born on Dia de los Reyes, a holiday in Mexico to celebrate the Three Wise Men AND the 12th day of Christmas (h/t Mayra). The little munchkin is Mexican, and so I decided to purchase a traditional Rosca de Reyes cake (see image below) … Continue reading Dia de los Reyes →