Here's a pro tip: Don't tell a foster parent how they should feel about this process. A few weeks ago, I received the news that I would be upgrading from a Resource Family Home to a Prospective Adoption Home. In theory, this is a good thing. I no longer have to have three home inspections … Continue reading Raining On My Own Parade
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What’s In A Name?
It's been a helluva month. The Terrible Twos™ are raging and were exacerbated by incoming molars and a cold that just won't quit. Tonight's tantrum du jour was regarding my inability to "open" my belly button 😑 I'm feeling very this... https://open.spotify.com/track/75JFxkI2RXiU7L9VXzMkle?si=292d7de674b145dc Nobody said it was easy, no one ever said it would be this … Continue reading What’s In A Name?
The Moms Are Not Alright
Over the past six months since the TPR hearing, I have been so grateful to be able to focus my attention on the normal Mom fears, and not the constant cloud of potential tragedy. Is he sleeping enough? Eating enough? Is it cool that he prefers to sleep on the floor as opposed to his … Continue reading The Moms Are Not Alright
I Won’t Mind
I am reminded every day that my child is not really mine. I'm reminded when the nurse asks if I'm breastfeeding. I'm reminded when the stranger in line at the grocery store comments on how alike we look. I'm reminded when I have to explain to the Early Head Start office why I don't have … Continue reading I Won’t Mind
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A little warning: today's post isn't very funny, if at all. I'm just...not in the mood. We finally had our disposition hearing a few weeks ago. As expected, both Birth Parents received reunification services. This means they each have an individualized case plan to complete in the next six months before we meet again in … Continue reading [Insert Title Here]
A Li’l Clap Back to My Haters
“This is my blog. I have to defend it.” –– Teenage Kevin McCallister TL;DR: I’m the worst. Or maybe, the system is the worst? I received a comment on my last post from a fellow single foster mother who does not believe I am “someone who should be a foster parent at all.” I COULDN’T … Continue reading A Li’l Clap Back to My Haters
Love in the Time of Corona
My baby sleeps as America burns. I am overwhelmed by the amount of information to share regarding the adoption process, the complex emotions I am feeling as I navigate raising a child of color in a country poisoned by hate, the tiredness and isolation of being a new mom during a global pandemic, the grieving … Continue reading Love in the Time of Corona
Houston, We Have a Baby!
So, remember how I said I lost my Babe to another family a month ago? SURPRISE! He ended up placed with me at the end of the day - like moments after I hit "publish" on the last post. The CSW didn't feel comfortable with the initial resource family, and now I'm a Mama (kind … Continue reading Houston, We Have a Baby!
It’s the Final Countdown
Whelp, I survived the holidays. Honestly, the time between Christmas and New Years was ROUGH. I had way too much time to sit alone with my thoughts. I started having serious doubts about my abilities as a single mom, as well as pre-mourning for my selfish lifestyle wherein I'm able to watch Keeping Up with … Continue reading It’s the Final Countdown
It’s All Happening
Lots of updates to share re: life. In the past month I quit my job, traveled to Mexico City, finished the nursery, celebrated my baby shower, and started a new position at another education non-profit organization in downtown Los Angeles (b/c I love a challenge and they are paying me more -- spending for 2 … Continue reading It’s All Happening
All the Single Mommies 