Dia de los Reyes

Last week we celebrated my foster son's first birthday. He was born on Dia de los Reyes, a holiday in Mexico to celebrate the Three Wise Men AND the 12th day of Christmas (h/t Mayra). The little munchkin is Mexican, and so I decided to purchase a traditional Rosca de Reyes cake (see image below) … Continue reading Dia de los Reyes →

I Won’t Mind

I am reminded every day that my child is not really mine. I'm reminded when the nurse asks if I'm breastfeeding. I'm reminded when the stranger in line at the grocery store comments on how alike we look. I'm reminded when I have to explain to the Early Head Start office why I don't have … Continue reading I Won’t Mind →

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A little warning: today's post isn't very funny, if at all. I'm just...not in the mood. We finally had our disposition hearing a few weeks ago. As expected, both Birth Parents received reunification services. This means they each have an individualized case plan to complete in the next six months before we meet again in … Continue reading [Insert Title Here] →

A Li’l Clap Back to My Haters

“This is my blog. I have to defend it.” –– Teenage Kevin McCallister TL;DR: I’m the worst. Or maybe, the system is the worst? I received a comment on my last post from a fellow single foster mother who does not believe I am “someone who should be a foster parent at all.” I COULDN’T … Continue reading A Li’l Clap Back to My Haters →

LWYRUP

My motion was filed on August 18––the day that should have been the disposition hearing since the last continuance––so I'm now comfortable sharing that I have hired a private attorney to represent me as I petition the Court for de facto parent status. I'm tired (like, all the time) so I'm just going to copy … Continue reading LWYRUP →

New Shit Has Come to Light, Man

As you know (or maybe you don't because the construct of “time” is crumbling under the weight of quarantine) the all-important July 18 date has come and gone. Funnily enough, July 18 ended up having no significance in my case whatsoever because the Court date was actually moved to July 22 and no one told … Continue reading New Shit Has Come to Light, Man →

Love in the Time of Corona

My baby sleeps as America burns. I am overwhelmed by the amount of information to share regarding the adoption process, the complex emotions I am feeling as I navigate raising a child of color in a country poisoned by hate, the tiredness and isolation of being a new mom during a global pandemic, the grieving … Continue reading Love in the Time of Corona →

Houston, We Have a Baby!

So, remember how I said I lost my Babe to another family a month ago? SURPRISE! He ended up placed with me at the end of the day - like moments after I hit "publish" on the last post. The CSW didn't feel comfortable with the initial resource family, and now I'm a Mama (kind … Continue reading Houston, We Have a Baby! →

Truth Hurts

Well it has just been a rollercoaster of emotions over here, people. First Lizzo loses record, album, and song and now this shit... Last weekend, I attended my first-ever adoptive parent support group at Extraordinary Families. There were four couples in attendance and as each of them shared their experiences my anxiety rose while my … Continue reading Truth Hurts →

It’s the Final Countdown

Whelp, I survived the holidays. Honestly, the time between Christmas and New Years was ROUGH. I had way too much time to sit alone with my thoughts. I started having serious doubts about my abilities as a single mom, as well as pre-mourning for my selfish lifestyle wherein I'm able to watch Keeping Up with … Continue reading It’s the Final Countdown →